Don’t let teething issues in your relationship destroy it forever

When you first move in together, it can come as a shock. Dating someone even if it’s been for years is very different from living with them. Even if you spend every weekend glued to each other. This transition period can be difficult. You have to get used to each other.

When you’re dating, you tend to be on your best behavior, you’re letting your partner see only what you want. No one can keep this up full time, so when his mask slips, it can be a relief that he’s human after all and not Mr. Perfect or a shock to the system when you realize he’s totally naive. And it may come as a surprise that it is untidy and hits the bathroom.

Of course, life as usual gets in the way. Where before your relationship was based on doing fun things together without a care in the world, the real life begins. You’re tired, and if it’s the first time you’re living away from your parents, you’ll have all the extra chores and responsibilities, paying bills, shopping, cooking, and chores. Where do you find the time to put all the love and care into your relationship that you used to? You hardly have time to brush your hair!

All this puts pressure on your relationship. You can find that instead of being in love you can’t breathe without each other, as you come down to the ground with a big bump. Picking up his dirty clothes under the clothes is not very romantic. And maybe not what I imagined in my daydreams.

Of course, everyone has teething problems. But when disagreements start to turn into more serious arguments, problems can begin. Harsh words are exchanged and before you know it one of you has walked out. It can escalate very quickly and without you even realizing it.

But all is not lost, that doesn’t mean you can’t solve problems. Don’t fall for the first hurdle and dump a good relationship before it really starts. Middle ground is required. Okay, so he might not be the perfect prince you thought of and she might not be that princess you put on a pedestal, but we’re all just human, and nobody’s perfect. Everyone has flaws whether we like it or not. Try to see yourselves from the other partner’s point of view. Both of you may have to admit to yourselves as well as to each other that you have faults. Then find a way to compromise and live with them, happily together.